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Ɗana ɗan shekara 10 ya fara girma.Akwai lokacin da na debi kayan sa ko na ba shi abubuwa da yawa daga wurin dan uwana, amma yana sha'awar fashion kuma yana da sanyi sosai yanzu.Ban da kasancewa tare, mun sha daɗi sosai.A zamanin yau, ba a ba ku damar amfani da ɗakin sutura ba.Lokacin da na gaya masa girman kayan da zai saya, ba zai yarda da ni ba!Mutum ne mai zage-zage, ina so in zama saurayi mafi ƙanƙanta, kuma yana jin takaici idan na gaya masa wanda ya fi wanda ya yi ƙoƙarin ɗauka.Yana son mafi ƙanƙanta tufafi… Amma yana da shekara 10 kacal yanzu, kuma ƙananan tufafin yara ba su dace ba.Lokacin da muka isa gida, ya sanya girman da na zaba, ya dace da ni, amma duk lokacin da na kasance mummuna kuma na ƙi ƙananan girman, har yanzu zai zama kullun a cikin kantin sayar da.Idan girman da kuke sawa ya yi ƙanƙanta kuma ƙanƙanta, me yasa girman ya bambanta a cikin shagon?Me zan iya cewa don warware wannan rashin jituwa ba tare da cutar da shi ba?Me yasa ya dage da sanya kananan kaya cikin tsananin damuwa?
Shin kun yi tunanin siyan ƙarin tufafi akan layi?Ganin cewa ɗanka ba zai iya gwada tufafi a cikin ɗakin maɓalli a cikin 2020 ba, da alama za ku iya guje wa fallasa da rashin daidaituwa na jama'a, koda kuwa yana nufin za ku rasa wasu siyayyar tufafi masu ban sha'awa.Manufar dawowar da ba ta da wahala na yawancin shagunan kan layi yawanci yana nufin cewa kawai kuna buƙatar siyan biyu daga cikin kowane wando, ɗaya a cikin ƙaramin girman, sannan ku dawo da wando biyu a lokacin siye.Ana iya magance wannan matsala cikin sauƙi .Ba da son rai yarda cewa kafofin watsa labarai sun fi dacewa.(Wata mafita: kawai oda kafofin watsa labarai kuma yanke lakabin kafin ya ganta.)
Na yarda cewa yaro ɗan shekara 10 yana da sha'awar sha'awa fiye da 'yan uwansa.Ina ganin ba lallai ne ka gaggauta tantance yaronka da ciwon cin abinci ko nakasar jiki ba, amma zan kula sosai da yadda yake ji da kuma maganar jikinsa a farkon balaga, da kuma ko ya ci gaba da nuna rashin gamsuwa da shi. jiki da kai Bambancin tsakanin hasashe ya cancanci tattaunawa da mai ilimin hanyoyin kwantar da hankali.
Amma, domin ra’ayinsa na taurin kai, ƙarnuka da yawa na iyaye sun magance matsalar girman yaron da kalmomin sihiri huɗu: “Za ka yi girma.”Duk lokacin da wannan matsalar ta taso, ina ba da shawarar ku tura su.
Yin la'akari da duk abin da ke faruwa a duniya, wannan ba shine batun da ya fi damuwa ba, amma muna aiki tukuru don yin la'akari da yanayin sararin samaniya tare da sabon jariri.Ni da mijina muna sa ido ga yaronmu na biyu a watan Maris.Muna da ɗa ɗan shekara 2, wanda zai zama biyu da rabi idan sabon jariri ya zo.Gidanmu yana da dakuna biyu a hawa na biyu, kuma ɗakin da aka gama zai zama ɗaya daga cikin ɗakin yara.Bandakin yaran yana hawa na biyu, kusa da dakin dana.Yanzu, danmu yana daki kusa da mu.Kimanin watanni shida da haihuwa, sabon jariri zai kasance a dakinmu, amma menene kuke tunanin shine mafi kyawun amsa?Ɗanmu zai yi horon tukwane lokacin da jaririn ya fita daga ɗakinmu, idan muka matsar da shi zuwa ɗakin soro, zai buƙaci tuƙi matakan tudu don zuwa bayan gida da dare.A gefe guda kuma, idan muka sanya sabon jariri a cikin soro, za mu ci abinci a kife.Za mu saka jaririn a cikin soro har sai dana ya girma kuma ya sami cikakken horo na tukwane?Ina damuwa game da canje-canje masu ban mamaki lokacin da ɗakin ya girma, amma ina son babban ɗana ya sami ɗaki mai ɗaki na dogon lokaci.A cikin dogon lokaci, menene kuke ganin shine mafita mafi kyau?
Oh, abu ne mai sauqi qwarai.Saka jariri a cikin soro.Za ku yi godiya don ɗan ƙaramin nisa, kuma ɗanku zai yi farin ciki cewa ba za a sake samun canje-canje masu tsauri a rayuwarsa da ke gab da canzawa ba.Juyawa a cikin 'yan shekaru zai zama da sauƙi, domin jariri zai sami babban ɗan'uwan ɗan yaro gado da kuma babban ɗan'uwa dakin, yayin da babban wa zai sami nasa sarari sama bene, wanda za a gyara a hankali don nuna sha'awa , Kuma sanye take da shi. tare da katon gado guda mai kyau.
Kusan shekara guda da ta wuce, dangin mijina sun ba mu wani ɗan wasa ƙanƙara a matsayin kyauta ga yara ƙanana.Ina fata sun kashe makudan kudade.Mun damu game da cin zarafi na al'adu kuma mun yanke shawarar adana shi bayan tattaunawa da yawa.Muna magana sosai game da wariyar launin fata tare da yara, sun yi ƙanana don fahimtar dalilin da ya sa ba mu jin daɗi da kyaututtuka.Mahaifiyata takan gaya min cewa idan ka ba wa wani kyauta, nufinsa ne kuma ya yi tambaya cikin rashin kunya.Duk da haka, kaka ta jiha ba kamar ta raba wannan darajar ba.Tun shekarar da ta gabata tana tambayar mijina me ya sa ba a cikin duk wani hoto da muka aika.Mijina ya kan tada wannan batu da cewa ba mu da isasshen sarari, wanda zai iya zama mafi kyau ko a'a.
Duk da haka, mun ƙaura kuma yanzu akwai daki-yanzu tana fama don yaƙar dalilin da yasa har yanzu ba mu kafa shi ba.Surukata na iya mamakin wariyar launin fata, ko da yake na yi imani cewa dukanmu muna da imanin wariyar launin fata kuma dole ne mu yi aiki tuƙuru don shawo kan waɗannan imani.Naji yadda ta gama magana dani, duk da babu wani bayani karara.A lokacin, na ƙarfafa ta a sarari ta yi la’akari da abin da ta faɗa, wanda da alama ya ɗan dame ta.Amma ina ganin lamarin ya dan bambanta.Ta ba mu kyaututtukan da ta yi tunanin kyakkyawa ne.Shin za ku iya tunanin hanyar da za mu magance wannan matsalar tare da kiyaye dangantakarmu da ita?
Tabbas kana da hakkin gaya wa mahaifiyarka cewa ba ka gamsu da kyautar da ta ba wa yaronka ba.Da kyau, ya kamata ku kasance da kwanciyar hankali da juna ta yadda tattaunawar tsakanin bangarorin biyu za ta kasance mai sauƙi kuma marar kuskure.Kuna iya cewa, "Ka sani, na karanta wasu littattafai, kuma ba ma son sanya takarda a cikin gidan saboda yana kawar da ma'anar abubuwan da ba su da fari na al'ada."Kuna iya faɗin wani marubuci ɗan asalin ƙasar Labarin ya bayyana irin illar da wannan cin zarafi na al'ada zai iya haifar ko da a wuraren da ba su da lahani kamar kayan wasan yara.
A gaskiya ma, kuna iya yin magana da surukarku lokacin da suka ba ku kyauta shekara guda da ta wuce.Ina fata kuna da!Hakan zai fi sauki.Yanzu, kun shafe shekara guda kuna mayar da bukatarta na kyauta ga jikokinta masu kyau don yin wasa da su.A ra'ayina, waɗannan buƙatun suna da ma'ana kwata-kwata idan ba buƙatar mahaifiyarku ba ce.Wace kakar ce ba ta son ganin waɗannan hotuna?An kama mijinki da karya tsakanin uwa mai raɗaɗi da matar da ba ta son mahaifiyarsa don babu isasshen sarari don neman shawara, kuma yanzu kina zaune a wuri mafi girma, kuma an fallasa ƙaryar. .
Ina ƙarfafa ka ka gaya wa surukarka gaskiya game da Tippi a fili da kuma alheri.Hanya ta sada zumunci ita ce magana da ita kuma ka ƙayyade tafiyar da za ku yi tafiya a wani lokaci, daga tunanin cewa kayan wasan yara irin su Tippi ba su da lahani don gane cewa mummunan ra'ayi ne, ba kamar kowane mai wayewa ba kamar yadda ya fahimci wannan ra'ayi zuwa. ita.Sai dai idan ba a bayyana misalai na rashin haƙuri da rashin ɗabi'a a cikin wasiƙarku ba, surukarku ta yi kama da cikakkiyar zaƙi, tsofaffi na yau da kullun, duk da cewa ba zai yi kyau kamar mahaifiyar ku ba, amma bai kamata a karɓi maganin Haƙori ba. .Wasiƙar ku tana nuna cewa kuna son ba ta.
Ta yaya za ku magance ji na ci gaba da bacin rai, zagi, ko wasu abubuwan da ba su dace da yaranku ba?Ni da mijina muna aiki na cikakken lokaci a gida kuma ba mu da taimako wajen kula da yara, don haka ’yarmu mai shekara 6 ba ta iya yin nishadi na sa’o’i kaɗan kawai a lokaci guda.Wannan sabon fasalin da aka haɓaka shine babban ci gaba a cikin ƴan watannin farkon zamana a gida, lokacin da nake ƙoƙarin neman kulawa ta tare da guiwarta mai jiran gado.Ba ta cika kare kanta ba - Ina kallonta kowane minti 20 ko makamancin haka (ko fiye da haka idan ta yi shiru), kuma muna da ƙayyadadden lokacin 1:1 a cikin yini.Ta yi magana da kanta, tana wasa da kayan wasan yara, tana zana hotuna, tana yanke takarda zuwa guda miliyan, kuma tana amfani da naɗaɗɗen kaset marasa adadi.Yana da ban mamaki.Amma kuma ta yi abubuwa da yawa da bai kamata ta yi ba: fenti a bango, shafa manne iri-iri (manne, man goge baki, tsabtace hannu, shamfu, ko da kwalbar hasken rana) a duk wani wuri da za a iya taɓawa, aski gashin kanta, gyara tufafinta. , Bar hawaye daga tsiro, da dai sauransu.
Ina gani, ta kasance m.Ina ƙoƙari in bar waɗannan ƙananan abubuwa, bari ta taimaka wajen tsaftace ɓarna, kuma in gyara ta kawai lokacin da ta yi wani abu mai ɓarna ko haɗari.Na yi ƙoƙarin bayyana abubuwan da nake tsammani kuma na samar mata da tashoshi da aka yarda da su don rikicewa, gwaji har ma da lalata.Ku yi imani da ni, na gane cewa wannan yana jin rashin gamsuwa-masu fasaha na zamani masu tasowa/anarchists/wakilan hargitsi ba sa son ficewar hargitsi da aka amince.A cikin bincike na ƙarshe, yana jin kamar dangantakar da ke tsakaninmu ta dawwama, kamar, a'a, kada ku yi haka, kada ku tsaftace yanzu, don Allah kada ku lalata, kada ku yi haka.Ita kuma ta ci gaba da kallona, ​​kamar na lalata mata duk wata dama ta farin cikinta a duniya.Ina jin abin raini, kamar sanda a cikin laka, kuma na gaji da shi.taimake ni!
Wannan shekarar ta kasance shekara mai wahala ga kowa da kowa, amma shekara ce mai muni musamman ga iyayen yara ƙanana.Yara na sun tsufa sosai har abin sha'awar da su da kansu ke ci karo da su a cikin dakin shine "harzuka a Reddit" maimakon "rufe bangon hasken rana" - wannan har yanzu yana da wahala, amma ba a ruɗe ba.
Ina tsammanin yaronku mai shekaru 6 yana iya zama mai watsi da "Mutum" har ta ƙi duk wata "hanyar fita mara kyau", amma ina tsammanin kuna iya samun tsinkaya.Yawancin yara masu shekaru 6 ba za su kasance cikin rikici ba saboda Antifa ne.Kamar yadda ka ce, suna da rudani saboda suna da ban sha'awa.Kuma yana yiwuwa gaba ɗaya a haɗa wasu lokuta da wuraren da aka ba da izini ta yadda hargitsi ya zama rayuwarsu ba tare da rufe su ba.Kuna iya yin la'akari da sanya tebur mai laushi a cikin ɗakinta mai tsayin gefuna, ko zanen bangonta da fentin allo, ko rufe ɗakin banɗaki tare da tawul da sanar da Play a cikin ruwa kullum da karfe 2 na rana.
Lokacin da iyayenku suka ji takaici kamar ku, duk hulɗar ku tana gyarawa.Amma ina so in tunatar da ku cewa ba haka lamarin yake ba, ba shakka, wadanda suka makale a cikin zuciyar ku, amma na tabbata cewa lokaci daya-daya na rana ba zagi kawai ba ne.Kuna ba da ƙauna da goyan baya da yawa ga ƙwararriyar ƙwararriyar magana, wanda tabbas za a bayyana a cikin biopic ɗin ta na Oscar.
Abu na ƙarshe: Kun ambata cewa ku da mijinki kun yi aiki daga gida, amma sai ya ɓace daga sauran wasiƙunku.Na tabbata zai bugi kan sa duk bayan minti 20 don hana ta rufe cat da gogen takalma, ko?Idan ba haka ba, don Allah a tunatar da shi cewa ba daidai ba ne ka zama mutum daya tilo da ya hukunta Little Jackson saboda rufe duvet da ketchup, kamar yadda bai kamata ka zama mutum kadai ke tunanin yadda za ka ciyar da rayuwar diyarka cikin farin ciki ba.
A cikin faifan bidiyo na iyaye na Slate “Mama da Baba suna faɗa,” fitaccen ɗan wasan ƙwallon ƙafa Abby Wambach kwanan nan ya amsa tambaya daga iyayen wani yaro ɗan shekara 4 wanda ya kasance “mai yawan motsa jiki”.Ƙarfin sha'awar wasanni.
“Ina tsammanin lokacin da yara suka bar filin ƙwallon ƙafa, muna raba abubuwa uku da su.Na farko: Ina son kallon ku kuna wasa.Lokaci.Na biyu: Yaya kake ji?Yaya kuke ji a wurin?Na uku: Abin da ka koya a yau Abin da ba ka sani ba a da?Shi ke nan.Bayan wasan ƙwallon ƙafa, kawai kuna buƙatar gaya wa yaranku wannan, saboda akwai wasu abubuwa.Kuna gaya musu a fakaice cewa soyayyar ku ta dogara ne akan ko nagari ne ko mara kyau.Rikici a kotu.Dukkanin tsarin wasanni yana yin kuskure, samun jituwa, yin kuskure da kuma daidaitawa."
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